The Evil Eye of Pageantry

The Evil Eye of pageantry is the 10% of individuals who are negative, catty, spiteful, revengeful, and downright despicable. These individuals don’t care about anything other than winning. They attack everyone – young and old. I understand that not winning is a hard pill to swallow. But it happens. Ladies - in the words of Rodney King “can’t we all just get along?”

I am appalled at some of the personal attacks that I have seen against women in pageantry. Is it really your business what happens in someone’s private life? Do you know what “really” happened or are you drawing your own conclusions based on your own selfish reasons? If you are really concerned, did you go to the head of the pageant system (local, state or National) to provide them with the information? If you did, you have your done your duty and should now step back and let them make an informed business decision. Because in the end, pageantry is a business! You are not the moral police. If you were, you would not post your “concerns” anonymously. Honestly, you wouldn’t post your concerns at all. It’s time to man up and grow up. Judges pick titleholders based on the person’s performance. You don’t have to like their decision but I suggest you respect their decision.

If not winning sends you into a tailspin that requires you to attack winners, their families, their professions, their coaches and every person who they have ever known, you need to find a new hobby. I really hope I never experience that type of personal attack because I am so far from perfect that all kinds of skeletons would likely tumble from my closet! Don’t even get me started about that one summer vacation……………………

Seriously, the Evil Eye of pageantry is only about 10% of the industry, yet it gives the other 90% a VERY BAD image. Pageantry is a small world with less than 6 degrees of separation – your behavior will likely come back if you don’t let go of the anger and move on. If you don’t like the results stop competing all together or find a system that best meets your needs, values and morals. The Christian thing to do is pray about your feelings and ask God to help you – that’s what I do even when I feel wronged or slighted.

John 8:7 - "He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her." Whether it be a marble, pebble or rhinestone, take a hard look at yourself to see if that stone will come back to haunt you.