Every year there are resolutions made. Some we keep and others we break before the first week is over. It’s the same when you’re competing in pageantry. We make resolutions to be happy for the winner – no matter who she is. And then it’s not your name called and you slip into old habits of picking apart the winner.
To break that habit, here’s my suggestion for a new 2011 resolution: Be honest about why you compete. If you compete to win, don’t say it’s about friendship. Don’t say it’s about community service. Don’t say it’s to have fun. Be honest and say YOU WANT TO WIN.
It’s okay to want all of these things. You’ll never win if you aren’t honest about why you compete. Many times the winners really are there to have fun and make friends, but they also came to win. Once you know the real reason for competing, you’ll be able to properly prepare for the win. I became friends with two ladies at my only National pageant experience. I think we all came to win but we didn’t let that consume us. We also came to make friends, have fun, and eat cheesecake. Guess what? We all made top ten. We weren’t mean to other ladies. We didn’t try to sabotage anyone. We brought our A game. One of those ladies won, and the other was in the top 5. I was “only” in the top ten but felt like I conquered the world. I didn’t talk about the winner. I came home and shared my success with all of my supporters – and to this day they refer to me as forever their Queen.
Another lady has captured every Mrs title in her State. She LOVES competing…..and she’s good at it. She will always tell you that she’s in it to win it. Yet, all of her competitors love her because she means them no harm. She prepares herself for the win, puts it in God’s hands, and then goes out to have fun.
Truth gives off the most brilliant of lights. If you are honest and truthful with yourself about why you compete or continue to compete, the judges will see your inner and outer beauty. It may be your night to take home the crown, or it may be your night to be genuinely happy for your new friend.
My resolution is to update once a week - let's home I don't break that resolution!
keep striving rhinestone. unfortunately, we have no control over others. we can only do the best that we can and use the "haters" as motivation. :-)
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